the joy of the fight or flight response is that it depends on the situation...that's what keeps us alive...i'm 4'11 and fat like a beachball...but in my mind i think i'm strong like a bull...BUT yet i'm smart enough to realize there are some battles i shouldn't fight.

maybe your t is "calling you out"...trying to get your anger going...to see if he can push you into a better healing or coping response. maybe that's why he said such an idiotic thing.

honestly if i was a t (and i'm not, nor do i even play one on tv) and i was concerned about a patient i most certainly wouldn't word anything that way. and if i was concerned about you purchase of a tool to injure yourself i wouldn't tell you i would terminate you (maybe that is common practice) since to me that would escalate things.

if it was me...i would go back...and say to him..."this is what i think i heard you say the other day....am i correct?" and make him explain his actions a little bit. and ask him why would you ever say that to anyone...what would make you think that it would have any value therapueticly?

anway...this t does sound to me like some guy who definitely saw the wrong end of a bullies fist during lunch recess too many times.

signed
stumpy
(who while she knows the value of running and hiding thinks that she may have had to been forced to thump this t on the head if she saw him...just to see if he was really a "fighter")