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I think you should go to your appt. You need to process this with your T.
I think it was inappropriate to tell you she'd do it without very serious exploration beforehand. Would it be a kind of running away from new T? From the issues you're dealing with? To avoid intimacy?
It comes across to me when you first mentioned it that that's not your new T's responsibility to do. You should be the one contacting your old T, for multiple reasons. One is that it otherwise puts you in the position of wanting others to do for you what you should be doing yourself. Also, it would seem to me that in contacting old T, if you can't work it out with him/her, that the next step is to ask if he'll talk to your old T. Better yet, tell him you're going to process it with new T and then if new T wants to help you try to make the change, then she can contact old T.
But there are so many issues here to explore, that you'll be doing yourself a disservice if you avoid hearing what your new T says rather than making assumptions. What you're talking about doing is a very heavy therapy trajectory change. It could be very empowering for you to take the steps of contacting old T yourself.
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