My T has been in therapy for something like 9 years. I like that about him. I have the tiniest idea what sent him to therapy to begin with, but I really don't want to know the details.

As for T self-disclosure - my T has become more willing lately to answer little questions I ask him. Early in therapy, I literally did not want to know ANYTHING about him - NOTHING - because I was abused by a T in the past and his excessive self-disclosure was the beginning of what ended up being a very slippery slope (but this was crazy stuff, about his divorce and his sex life!! and things like that. blech).

Anyhow, like searchingmysoul, I am definitely catching myself using his self-disclosure to avoid talking about my own stuff. I DO NOT like to talk about childhood things, and I barely have in 15 months of therapy, and when I feel myself start to thing about those things I'll suddenly ask him "where did that picture on your wall come from?" or whatever. I've just noticed myself doing that lately. I think we've finally got down to the meat of what I don't want to talk about in therapy and I spend a lot of therapy doing a "look over there!!!" kind of thing to distract us both from that possible topic. Hum. I guess now that I'm realizing that I should stop doing it. Eeeek!