i'm assuming that you're talking about someone on the internet, wherever he is, it has to be a proclaimed two way street. in the thread that i looked up for you, when you couldn't remember that you told Ryan you'd met a guy, you said, "i hope he has feelings for me"..or something to that effect. that said to me right there that whomever this "guy" is, he had not voiced any love/marriage/baby carriage feelings for you....you can't just pick a target and aim...not in real life. and that's how that feels to me. you got a crush on someone and when they didn't return the feelings that you said you had, you're off the deep end. it isn't fair to men to just decide on one and then declare your love..when they haven't told you that what they feel is anymore than friendship.

you said that you're getting on fine with the guy that you met there, in your hometown. why not work on a real relationship..one where the person is actually there?

i hope this helps you.