L, im just a caring observer and i get that you are sensitive to this.. the letter has a stern tone and i can see that such a tone can cause a response in us that is sometimes the opposite of what we are feeling a need for... the sternness in this letter sends up a flag to me that the T has a high anxiety level on this subject and with the stern tone is attempting to make clear and uncertain rules regarding this matter... he ends with a kinder statement (the sorry etc...) and says he likes you... that is good T because he is making a clear rule and offering a hand of friendship with the ' i still like you' statement... jmo and i care