Let's see. The sage and sweetgrass was burned in a little pot inside the house. It was one of those bundles of it.
I tried very much to make it a safe place for them. Scent can be a helpful way to do that. I put on a chanting cd I use to relax. Then I listened to her. She had much to tell me some of it easy to hear some not. Mostly I felt her pain. She was hurt and not listened to or cared about and told all sorts of nasty things. I couldn't change what happened to her but I could listen now. She was hurting all the time. she didn't understand why she'd been hurt. It was all so fresh for her. At first I didn't integrate her I aged her a little and as I did that and she told her story the pain went away. It wasn't overnight. I had to burn sage and sweetgrass for a few nights as my mind slowly came together.
Burning sage and sweetgrass is supposed to be purifying taking away bad things and inviting in good ones. My little believed being smudged would take the taint off her she felt from the abuse. She believed very much in magical things. It helped me calm her. I actually taught her to meditate. She liked that very much.
My happiness comes from having an ending to flashbacks and not feeling so much pain. I am whole now. I don't feel like a victim so much as a surviver . Happiness comes from the things happening around me and the way I feel inside. I hope this makes sense to you.

Kayti