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madisgram · Feb 13, 2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Lbien6

I thought it might be helpful to me and I hope people don't mind, to show you the email my T sent.
I actually told him towards the end of the session that I had bought a SI tool. Our session was then cut short and so he asked me to email him about it. I just told him in he email, that I had had a rash and scratched until it bleed and then went out and bought the SI tool.
This was his response: (maybe I am overreacting or misinterpreting, so I thought it might be helpful if someone else read it and told me if I was)
Cutting crosses a line I am unwilling tolerate. I know this sounds preachy or judgmental, but I figure you'd better hear my position on cutting before start down that path. I am willing to have an understanding or contract of trust with you. which you have already started by telling me. here are the basics:

1. You may not stash or store edged weapons of any type. You either turn them over to me or throw them away (trust is everything here).

2. Cutting is automatic grounds for evaluation in an inpatient setting. (especially with you off meds). Obviously that would force you back into taking meds.

3. If you start cutting, you are choosing to terminate treatment with me. I reserve the right to evaluate any and every instance of cutting as to weather you will be terminated.

4. Failure to disclose your acting upon the urge to cut will be automatic grounds for termination because it would destroy trust. In that kind of environment, I couldnt treat you. No excuses or chances here. OK? I mean it.

Ok there might be other things to put boundaries on but thats it for now.

If you and I cant agree on a contract regarding this, it will block future treatment.

Sorry that this sounds stern or hard, but I feel its important to establish an understanding about this real soon. I wanted you to get this right away an I apologize if it makes you mad or upset. I just wanted to get this on the table before damage is done to our relationship.

Be prudent this weekend with anything you're planning and lets talk Monday. And yes, I still like you.

here's just my take on it

...your T cannot help you if you do not comply with agreements you make with him. he's stating his boundaries for your continued relationship with you. as he stated it is based on mutual trust. i felll he wants to help you, help you. if you are not willing to agree with his 'contract" he's telling you he is uable to help you.
we as clients need to trust our T's and vice versa for them to help us. it's th key to our bettting better. hope this helps. please keep in mind this is mho and from the experiences i have had.