even tho we are depressed and unable to connect with the whole range of our feelings when feeling so yucky, for our own good it is healthy to consider the good health of the whole overall.. when we rely on the whole for help when needed, the whole is only capable of helping at its current level of health.. when one group or individual is successful in dragging down the whole, the whole is then weakened, reducing its ability to help the individual.. for this reason a strong and healthy whole is in the best interest of all and as individuals we carry a responsibility and an ability to strengthen the whole, a need and requirement for the whole health goal of all parts... imo