you have the abilty to feel connection, you are drawn towards others by the evidence of wishing for a functional and healthy relationship.. in this way you are capable of desiring and at times i imagine, attempting to make a connection to that which surrounds you, as evidence, your post here... that is not complete self centering but is instead a sign of healthy attachment efforts on your side.. you can continue to connect with caring others who will help guide you towards a shared feeling of co-community and in that way assist you in departing your isolation... best to you always and i hope you will stay a while with us and benefit here as i have..