Um, what would you expect in his place? Probably that he would be honest, on the other side maybe that he would tell it gently, kindly, patiently and respectfully.

Thing is, sexuality (beginning from kissing) is a very intimate and very personal matter! So it is better not to hurt a partner, even unwillingly, I think. Rude and tough messages like "your kissing is crappy" or "you suck in ..." can damage a young man's sexual self-esteem and confidence. And will not make him a better lover - sometimes even the opposite is the case...

So you are not talking and giving feedback when making love? I cannot imagine that. Giving and receiving is a constant inter-action. Besides, there is always feedback, more or less openly, more or less faked or true. I prefer the open and non-faked side. Here progress is possible. On the other side only stagnation.

Why not see it as a kind of adventurous trip together? I wish a lot of fun in exploring the wide areas of giving and taking lust.

bluenarciss