Thank you very much for the replies. There are three things I would like to add to paint a more complete picture of myself and my situation.

1. I live life in the fast lane -- I have been a felon for the past five years (I grow high-quality, organic medicine for sick people, and although I recently moved to a state that has legal med-pot, I don't anticipate that my life will slow down any time soon).

2. None of the women I've dated have allowed me to perform oral sex on them, they have all said that it is too intimate and they wanted to wait for a while. Is that normal?

3. I am an EXTREMELY intense, driven person, and I am exceptional in every facet of my life at which I have chosen to be (music, athletics, academia, business, etc.) except this one. People in my profession cannot make very many mistakes, and I generally don't allow myself to make any mistakes at all, so I have a very hard time accepting my lack of sexual proficiency.