i can relate to the zoned out feelings you are talking about.. sometimes, for me, i would be completely numb, seemingly 'gone' for some period of time... no thoughts would come, no feelings.. as i worked out my inner struggles i came to realize that those 'zoning out' times were times in which i had disconnected from a particular feeling i was having at the time, fear, worry, doubt, etc... in time i was able to convert the zoned 'out' feeling into a zoned 'in ' feeling... i could use that time to think about some childhood event that had lodged itself into my mind, occupied a large segment of thinking space, and then departed, renewing the reservation and establishing the 'vacant' effect on me...

do you experience the 'zoning out' feeling regularly? is it in a certain time of day, is a particular song or image creating the spacey feeling you describe? what circumstances are occurring when the zoning out happens? are you seeing a professional now?

remember to take self care and ask for help from caring friends, loved ones.. boyfriend sounds concerned but untrained, i hope the two of you can work together to overcome whatever issues from your past are causing this to re-arise for you now