from a recent PC post ... >>> am definitely catching myself using his self-disclosure to avoid talking about my own stuff. I DO NOT like to talk about childhood things, and I barely have in 15 months of therapy, and when I feel myself start to thing about those things I'll suddenly ask him "where did that picture on your wall come from?" or whatever. I've just noticed myself doing that lately. I think we've finally got down to the meat of what I don't want to talk about in therapy and I spend a lot of therapy doing a "look over there!!!" kind of thing to distract us both from that possible topic. <<<

I was wondering what the T's reaction to this is? Sometmes I ask "deflective" questions too (how was your Christmas, did you have the familiy in etc - she has never rejected my question, but is it what we are there for?). I keep wondering when she's going to call me on it, but she doesn't. does anyone else do this "deflecting" thing? Maybe everyone does it? and how does T react?