I've been with T over 5yrs now and spent the first yr talking about "other" people and even now I can avoid talking about me and my feelings in any real sense and T just lets me go where I am going because even out of deflection we can arrive . Even out of looking "over there" we can reach someplace "here". I have often wondered how in the hell my T has the patience like she does. BUT then its that sense of her complete acceptence of where I am in any moment that helps lead me on to more deeper places.