Jobs are so hard to find in my field that if I needed a job and had an offer in another city, I would have to do it, probably. Beggars can't be choosers. As it is, I will probably be losing my job at the end of the summer, so I may be facing this. I did turn down a job last year in another state, hoping my current one would pan out, but it hasn't. Still, I have been grateful for this year with T. I think I am at the point in therapy where I could leave and survive--not sure I could have said that a year or two ago (we have been together 2.5 years now).
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I feel like I was so lucky to have found someone so good on this try, and that it would be highly unlikely that I'd find someone so good again.
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I'm not so sure about this. I think once we've been in therapy a while, we have learned what works for us and if a practitioner can help us, if we get along with them, bond with them, etc. So I think finding a suitable T after we've had a good one may be easier than before we had the experience of working with the "right" T. For example, I go to see a family therapist every few weeks with my daughter. I really like him and think I would have done well in individual therapy with him if I didn't have my current T (who I consider the best
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If you do have to move, maybe your current T could give you some suggestions on how to go about finding a new T that will work for you in the new city.
I hope you don't have to make that difficult choice. How strongly do you need to take the job offer in the other city? Are you unemployed right now, or is your current job on the chopping block? Whether it is need (I will be broke without this new job) or desire (even though I have a decent job, this new job would be interesting and pays 10% more than my old one) can also play into your decision.
Good luck!