((((((((((sherry)))))))))))
I know it's so hard ... I'm a people pleaser to .... and that's one reason I si too because I can't ever hurt ppl so I turn anger, hurt and rage inward.
I don't like hurting people whatsoever.
I did make one exception and that is my ex. The only way I was able to do this though was because of the massive amounts of hurt he put me through. I wasn't intentionally cruel cuz that's not in my nature, but I was at least able to do what I needed to for myself and that was to tell him to leave and follow through with my divorce without looking back and no regrets.
Have you talked to your T about this. I can imagine being in your shoes because I went through that stage. You need some support and direction...seeing the possibilities and one thing that also helped me was knowing that this was the best thing for "him" as well...eventually. It was allowing him to have opportunities as well.
Sherry ... I miss you
we gotta catch up
Talk to you soon.
Eva