nycguynva,

DUDE!!!! Kick this one to the curb before you get in another mess. Take some time to figure out what you want. You need to reflect on the mistakes made by both you and your ex-wife before you can move on.

Think about a therapist, I know you're probably on a remote base. We were stationed at Misawa and that was concidered remote, but they still had therapists. I know the Marines used to frown on those things, but hopefully they're more enlightened now. Until you can figure out what attracts you to these distuctive relationships you're going to keep repeating them.