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Originally Posted by ThePainNeverDies
I guess it's because I've always lived by the rule that I have to make everyone else happy or everyone else won't like me..
And somehow it's always happened that if I don't make them happy and I do something for me, instead, they hate me for it :/ so where do I win?
I can't make myself feel better by doing something TO make myself feel better if they just make me feel terrible about it, can I?!
wishing that people would just quit making my life such a misery all the time.  |
Wanting to make others happy with you would be where I would focus the problem solving on this issue. Do you understand the roots of this need?
Maybe boundaries are part of this issue too? You really don't need to take in and gather all of this info. Don't gather it and you won't be aware of it. Healthy boundaries will put a divide between you and others so that you don't collect all of this info that you don't need and which makes your life more difficult. Healthy boundaries keep people from making your life miserable.