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Feb 17, 2009, 02:58 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: MN
Posts: 42
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Long story short: Been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. We communicate very well. He is a patient, understanding loving man. He loves me truly and wholly unconditionally. I know I am lucky..however, there is a big lack of...mental connection? I find myself rather bored with him, and like we have nothing to talk about. i vaccilate constantly between whether or not we need to part ways, because I get empty/ bored/ stifled.
In addition to this: recently, he lost his job. He's completely unorganized (he is ADD in every truest sense) and he has a lot of things piling up. He has a home he cant afford anymore, tons of bill and collection notices on his table, school loans floating around (he quit his 2 year program after one year.) and just a lot of loose ends. His house is an unorganized mess. He seems only interested in: sleeping until 1 PM, or: going to his part time job, which is more like play-time for him because he works with his brother, playing cop at a grocery store.
I know that the "ideal" person should: stand by him, overlook this, focus on the fact that he is loving and kind e.t.c. I wish it were that easy!
I need quite a bit of structure in my life, so this is driving me craaaaazy. I have even told him I need to detach myself from his messes, because I cant deal with his and mine combined. But I'm finding this difficult because I can't seem to completley seperate his mess from the pros of the relationship. I am so frustrated, mad, and upset thay I'm just getting crabby with him every day now.
I don't know what to do! 
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