yeah, well luckily I'm not with that guy anymore. My bf Im with now has actually caught on really quick. And I think some of the problem before was that, I told him that i wanted him to get tested. I had been tested since my last partner change and have been tested for HIV also and everything came back negative. So we, of course, only used condoms for the first times we had sex because it took about a week for his test results to come back. And I think those damn condoms really ruined it for the both of us lol. he couldnt feel hardly anything so he was "off his game" and that just made me not even want it y'know? So now that his results came back negative for everything, and I'm on birth control, we decided it wasn't necessary to use condoms anymore and boy, has that made a HUGE difference. he seems much more confident and much more able to read me and my body language because he's not so focused on how awful it feels haha.

wasn't bob ross the one who painted those happy trees?