((earthmama))
You have been through a lot and I am impressed with how you have handled your feelings today, transforming John's energy toward your son! Way to go sista.
I don't know what it is about this funeral thing. Why do we care? After all, we won't be there. I have a feeling that my T wouldn't go to my funeral but who knows? I have a family member who is a T and I know she has attended services for clients.
At any rate, it's how you are in the here and the now that counts and although you have suffered a great loss it feels as though you are coping.
Take gentle care.