I'm having an issue with this too. I have been with my bf for years and years and it has always been a problem. He always masturbates basically every day so I know he has a huge sex drive but he never comes on to me... ever. If I try to initiate sex with him he tells me not to touch him. Then 10 min later I'll catch him masturbating. I have told him countless times how bad this hurts me but he says that only sluts want sex and that I don't really want it...
He tells me that he only thinks about me when he watches it but I don't buy it because he could just actually come and have sex with me if he wanted instead of fantasizing about it.
It makes me feel really worthless and ugly and he knows this but nothing changes.