Berries,
I am also wondering what your t had to say and how things are going. As far as t's helping us, I think some times the best thing they can do and I guess it depends on their background and on the patient; is not hospitalize or terminate.
I was in a situation when I did cut myself, it was like the 3rd time I did it and ended up needing stiches. Because I was not suicidal and my cuts were on my upper arm it never occured to me that the hospital would detain me.
They called my t and when they got in touch with him and he urged them not to hospitalize me and then spoke with me on the phone and helped me to relax. They trusted his assesment and allowed me to leave.
I had a t that did hospitalize me and threaten to terminate when I was not following his rules. I have this HUGE fear of staying in hospitals (childhood) so the other therapist just made things worse. When I needed major knee surgery my dad flew 3000 miles to stay with me for 5 days in the hospital b/c I was so terrified.
Anyway, I think that my therapist can help, by not hospitalizing me or terminating but rather helping me to look at why I feel the need to hurt myself and how that impacts my life. What thoughts I have and where they dervive from and how I can make changes so that I can deal with my feelings of not feeling like I am worthy etc...
I guess the message at least for me is that this is my life and if I am going to hurt myself then that is horrible enough and hospitalizing me is not going to help.
I know that I am talking personally about my case and that other t's who do handle things differently are just as wonderful. I am not in any way saying that my therapists is the best, it just works for me and has helped me to establish trust.
So, yes, I do think there are other ways to handle things.

Berries, I hope that this works out the best for you and if this therapist is right for you - yippee but if he is not please don't give up on therapy or yourself. There are others that will help, just like not all teachers teach the same way, not all therapists treat the same way.

Please let us know how you are doing...