I hope you will get some counseling and support that is specific to your situation as a single woman who is carriing the child of an abusive partner BEFORE telling him anything. You cant unring a bell so go slow with what and when you share with him if anything. Stay physically away from him and seek support and advice from women who have delt with your experience in their oewn lives. Kathi you will be taxed to the limit physically and emotionally in the coming months so conserve your strength and energy in the service of your mind and body and the coming child.