Deborah...You are speaking for me and my experiences as well on the Internet dating sites.
Okay, so the one man I met on Eharmony was a long distance trucker, age 60. He had three young adolescent children. He insisted on calling me while on his long haul trucking nights and keeping me on the phone. I agreed to meet him and even visited his residence in KY, which was at least an 8 hour drive from me. He lived in an old doublewide trailer on his father's property, and when I entered the residence, I felt suffocated. It was so dirty and cluttered, I had a hard time feeling comfortable enough to find a clean seat! He was also a "psychic" and had worked on the Psychic Hotline (that used to advertise on TV), yet he was very abrasive and cruel to waitresses when we went to dinner. He was pretty obvious in his intention to find someone to add to his income, run errands and take care of his three kids. Needless to say, that ended soon on my part, and my impression of Eharmony is that they just "matched" me with him because of our geographical proximity and our ages. Happily, I had no after-effects from ending that one!
In thinking about these sites like Eharmony, which purport themselves as matching thru valid psychological surveys, I'm a bit cynical. Maybe it's more a matter of youth and age and what's really out there. For me, at my age, the pickings are pretty slim to none!
Patty