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When you are very newly diagnosed, and even sometimes when you are years down the road, there come times when you can't control who comes out, who stays out, and who runs the show. For a T to say that to a person, imho it is way out of line. Especially when he doesn't give you any direction on how to go about doing that, or what he expects of you, etc. That is very insensitive, unempathetic and just plain wrong. Learning how to "contain" your alters takes years, and still there is no sure-fire plan to do so if something triggered you so badly that it all came spilling out during a stressful moment. I would go back and ask the T exactly what it was that he is expecting you to do, and ask him how to go about doing it. Ask him what about your not containing "them" bothers him. Is he used to dealing with alters? Is he used to dealing with MPD/DID patients? Does he have knowledge of how to teach them to begin cooperating with you?
If T doesn't know these things, then perhaps you need to switch T. It doesn't help any of us if our T doesn't know how to treat us. The same would apply to a person with heart disease. You wouldn't want to go to a specialist who deals with hemorrhoids when it's your heart that's the problem. Sorry. Just an example of how to choose your T.
Best wishes for you and your journey.
Beth protector of Jewels
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