Shaymus, I have stayed away from replying to many posts here at the site, for that exact reason, better not to say anything than upset people, this though I could no longer sit it out, okay?
And true, everyone responds to things not always the same,
if it sounds like I was putting any expectations on anyone here, I apologize, that is not what I was doing, at least I believe I wasn't putting expectations on anyone.
Telling someone not to give up, is not putting any expectations on them, just thought words of encouragement are needed often, that applies to all of us who deal with heavy duty stuff, my life has been no fairytale either, and I am sure that can go for many of us.
Everyone here, please take care now, I wish you all better days to come and be yours

DE