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reporters on tv talk about "containing a fire" or "containing an oil spill on the ocean" or "a hazardous waste spill being contained"
i only ever remember the word being used when things go wrong..."quick, lets contain "x" before the media gets wind of it". it is a word that treats alters like they are a nuisance, problem or disaster". that is SO wrong to speak of alters as if they are like the above examples!
EVERY alter you have, no matter how they are behaving came into being to HELP you. that deserves respect and compassion from you and your T. Alters helped you SURVIVE - they are not a problem, they were your solution as a child and they need help now that you are grown up and their methods don't work as well in the adult world."R.E.S.P.E.C.T. find out what that means to me" Aretha Franklin said it right for us who have alters. they need to be respected if you ever want their cooperation in working on your issues.
my T was not experienced in working with mpd/did when i first came to her. she learned on me and on others. at first i just wanted to get my alters integrated and get on with "MY" life. until i learned it was "OUR" life i did not get much progress with our issues. my alters opposed me and even sabotaged our progress for quite a while because they felt angry over my unkindness toward them.
my alts bore pain, fear, shame, guilt, terror, agony, misery, rage, horror, violence, abuse..... and more FOR LESLIE. now it is my turn to give back to them so we can all learn how to heal together.
i know this got long, but i feel so strongly that your T is missing it here. he/she does NOT really know how to look at you and your alters are parts of the whole you, of equal value and honor with the "core" or "original self".
all parts CAN learn to cooperate, with time and sincere effort to help them too. if your T can't learn a more humane attitude to the alts who helped save your life i really doubt he/she will be able to help you very much.
leslie and her pixies
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