Merlin, I'm sorry you're going through this. Parent's expectations can be tough to deal with. But it's her issue to deal with, not yours.

I see it with my ex and my daughter. He thinks she should struggle to pursue a career he sees fit (law, politics, math), not use her natural talents to pursue something she enjoys (art, animals, healing).

I don't have any answers on how to get your mother to see that your personal desires are as or more valid as any of hers, but if I think of any suggestions, I'll let you know.

Hugs in the meantime. ((((((((((Merlin)))))))))