I agree for the most part with Tishie. I find it hard to find anything other than another woman good looking, I don't have sexual thoughts about other women, and my wife and I are open enough as well to be able to say what do you think about him/her. I suppose if I did have those kinds of thougts though, I would tell her, I don't like hiding anything from her and like Tishie says, I know I would notice my wife acting diff.