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In my experience, someone was always listening. When I stopped denying and fighting that they were real, things started to improve, slowly. I eventually went beyond validating them to honestly appreciating what they had done for me.
They are real and they aren't the enemy. The folks who abused us to the point of our mind having to find this unusual coping mechanism are the true enemy. Our alters, our other parts, are wounded, traumatized and often protectors.
I had to get beyond the poor me, why is this happening? to allowing them to work with my counselor and find healing. It wasn't all about me, if that makes sense. They were a mess, making choices based on old perceptions and needed to hear the truth from someone they trusted. At first that certainly wasn't me. My T gained their trust and eventually I became someone they could trust. It was all about finding them healing, not getting rid of them!
Even if some of the things we need to do make us "feel" crazy, we're not. Feelings are not facts. What is the alternative to resisting the very things that could benefit us? More chaos? More inability to function? isn't trying some things that take us out of our comfort zone worth it if it leads to some healing?
just from my experience,
Judy
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However confused the scene of our life appears, however torn we may be who now do face that scene, it can be faced, and we can go on to be whole.
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