My ex and the father of my eldest children is scum he is a (I could go on for ages I wont bother) however I believe they have the right to choose for themselves, I keep them away from him while they are children as he is a bad influence and upsets them.

However I never run him down to them and really never talk about him unless they mention him ! And my replys are nice about him, as I dont want to play with their heads.

I believe they will seek him out when they are older and will work out what a piece of **** he is ! But its THEIR choice they have to work it out.

Your mother I feel should tell you everything now as if you are old enough to ask the questions then you are old enough for the answers.

Is there another relative you can talk to about this ?