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Originally Posted by Soliaree
((((Ihateit))))),
I commend both you and your wife for doing everything you can to help yourselves! I hear and see that you care a lot for your family  Sometimes my H and I have difficulties stemming from issues from our childhood, and asked him the other day if he would see a T and he said yes. It's a very difficult situation, I know. For me, we both have such diffuse boundaries, that neither one of us knows who's wrong/right or if it's a little of both. I hope your Wife likes CBT. My T is eclectic and does use CBT, but for my PTSD symptoms, I've had to have therapy that digs deeper. But, that's just me. I wish both of you well! |
It's been ... hard, to say the least. And yes, my wife, and children, are the most important things on this earth to me...and I hope and pray that with this CBT, she will get better...although I don't trust her T, because of what she has said about him and other things, I really hope he knows what he's doing with the CBT. She understands that it may or may not work and she might have to do more after.
She stares off into space a lot now. She is cold to me and our children a lot, not mean, just not there, very dissacociated, but it comes and goes. That last two days have been really bad as she's started the CBT, had to tell her T what happened, in detail, and started her "homework".
I understand, and she knows I support her 100%, but the kids don't get it, and my son (only 2) is really getting upset. My daughter, we decided, I will try to explain to her what's wrong with mommy, in a way she can understand, and that it's not her, it's something mommy has to work through and yes, mommy loves her very much.
We had another talk last night. I am more secure in "us" now than I have been in over 12 months. It's a good feeling. Yet, at the same time, it still hurts that she doesn't want to cuddle, kiss, hold hands, etc. I accept it now though as it's not me, it's what she has to go through, and hopefully come out the other side and be who she wants to be. This isn't about me...something that has taken a long time for me to get, I was in such a me mode it was ridiculous...it's about her getting better and me understanding why she does what she does, and now that I do, it's easier to accept some things, whether it hurts or not.