youOme, ive only responded to you a few times and i was away for a lengthy time, but i noticed you when i came back and i remember thinking that you are exceptional in many ways, and familiar in many ways as well.. i work with a lot of under-priveledged and 'unfortunate' teens and youth.. i see the struggle they are facing in todays world and i see in them a character of goodness, if only they are given a fighting chance.. you are proof of my belief that goodness dwells in the most unlikely places.. dump the abuser