((skymonk))

quick question--I'm getting ready to go out
but I saw your post and wanted to ask you

do you have a second bedroom? or at least another sleeping space?
jme, perhaps putting some physical space between you along with a simple explanation will give him pause to think...he doesn't have to answer you...if fact, don't expect him to be anything but pissy about it. TS.
he needs to respect your boundaries as you set them.

if it's hard for you to say anything to him, write it out. short and sweet. no sense in getting into anything too involved for now.
all this is is taking a first step in independence from him.

Please listen to my heart speaking to yours;
You are a beautiful and loving woman.
You have an understanding heart and sweet spirit...do not let this man tear you down. Whether or not he "means" to do it doesn't matter right now--what matters is he is making you doubt yourself and your right to be happy, respected, and appreciated.
Love yourself first and foremost, and that is one of the hardest things to do, I know.
If you don't have at least some affection towards yourself then he is going to continue to abuse you.
There are many kinds of abuse besides physical abuse...

Part of what I hear you sharing though is that you do have some idea of what he is doing, don't like it, and know that you don't deserve it...I hope this is true.
Hold on to every good feeling about yourself that you can think of, and hold on tight.
It's a gift you are giving to yourself so please protect it and don't give it away.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are...
We Care

Cap