I guess I am spoiled as I was married for 15 years to a man that had a similar libido to mine.
My ex husband and I had sex at least three times a week over the 15 years. I married him at eighteen and we were both virgins. He was interested, attentive, and adventurous in bed. Plus he loved me so it was very intense.
He ended our marriage out of the blue one day. I still don't know why but I have stopped wasting mental energy trying to figure it out. It took me several years to move on and start a new life. My ex and I are still friends, as we have two kids together, but I have no sexual feelings for him now. He is more like a brother now.
But the sad thing is my bf also feels like a brother. To me this is not a romantic relationship. I want that passion again.