Tomi, you certainly have a full plate of 'men' problems on your hands. I would just simply tell him thanks but no thanks, you're not interested in anymore relationships with men.

Do I understand correctly that he is doing some work for you? If so, when do you expect that to be finished? I would stay as far away as possible while he is doing the work and it would be good if Jerry would stay with you to at least show Art that you're still together. With Jerry there, you also wouldn't need anybody else to take you wherever you need to go, including Art, therefore decreasing the amount of time that you are with him. Why does he keep coming over to the house? Is there a polite way of telling the guy that you want to be left alone? Very sticky situation indeed.

BTW, criminal records are public and can be looked at on the internet. I know it is possible because when I was on another site we looked up 2 different people, one also being a murderer, although both were still in prison at the time, so I'm not sure if that makes a difference or not. Unfortunately, I don't remember how you would do that. You could maybe do a google search on his name or if you know where the murder took place, then you could search for criminal records in that specific area. If you knew what prison he served time in, that would also help in your search. I think I recall you saying that he got off for 'good behaviour' after 7 years? If that is correct, there is definitely something wrong with the legal system in the US. Also, to me anyway, it seem unlikely that he would win his appeal by defending himself. You know the old saying about defending yourself, that you have a fool for a lawyer. Some of his legal 'info' just doesn't add up to me. But maybe I'm wrong, it certainly wouldn't be the first time, nor will it be the last.

At any rate, the sooner you can nip this in the bud, the easier it will be. You don't want this going on for any extended period of time. Firstly, it is already taking it's toll on you personally and also, the harder it will be to get rid of him the longer it goes on.

Whatever you do, please be safe and good luck.

BTW, if the reason he commited the murder is as you say it was, what a dispicable crime those guys did to that poor girl.