I've always been the type of person with big dreams and hopes and goals in life.. but I've also always needed someone to encourage me, motivate me, and push me to do things. It's really pathetic, but I've come to realize how much I need my mommy for these things.. haha..
ok, so I love my husband to death, but I'm afraid because sometimes I feel like he's not motivated either.
There are so many things that I am interested in and want to pursue but I just feel like I have no support. Any time that I try to talk to him about ANYTHING of this sort, he barely pays attention.. or if he does, he shows absolutely NO interest. I've started watching his stupid sports and I even kind of like them now (which I hate to admit haha), and will go to sporting events, and even play sports video games with him!!
I don't understand why he can't show some interest in anything that I like.. it's like I can say "I miss dance/art so much, I want to take classes" and he'll say, "oh yeah... that's cool."
it's like he says the smallest reply that he can get away with.. like I can't "yell" at him that he's not listening because he responed.
All he does and he would be happy doing this.. is sports! He can watch sports nonstop all day!!! Like I said, I will watch games with him.. will GO to games with him.. but that's just too much. He shows no interest in ANYTHING else in life.. and sees nothing wrong with it. That is just too depressing for me. I don't understand it.
I can understand liking something so much, but still there is so much more out there in the world. I try to tell him that he needs to try new things and that he should learn about other things. He is so consumed with the sports world that it's pathetic. It's as pathetic as if I was all obsessed with celebrities and sat at home watching E! channel all day long!!
I am just so curious about the world and he just seems uninterested in anything.
It's frustrating because I don't know if I can be in a relationship with someone who won't do anything. The only things we ever do is go out to eat, go to the movies sometimes, sports events, grocery shopping. THAT'S IT! We are so young and that's all the "fun" we ever have! I like to go out, meet people.. I used to have so many friends.. i love to go running, go on walks out in parks.. go to the gym.. I will ask him to go to the gym or go running with me, but there's always something else that needs to be done.. or it's too cold outside, or he's tired.

I'm wondering if it's normal for somebody to be this way.

I just don't understand it. I love my husband so much but I just don't feel connected to him.

Sex seems to be all about him.. and it sucks for me. But I guess it's understandable since he's my first and he's also new at it.

He does nothing even for himself.. he goes to work, comes home, and wants to sit there and watch tv or play video games. He doesn't even eat much. I have to nag him to eat/take a bath/brush his teeth/wash his hands!! It's terrible! I feel like his mother! I mean, didn't his mother teach him to take care of himself?? i just don't know...

I wish he cared about himself more and made more of an effort in life. I feel like we are both wasting our lives and I can't live like this.

What do I do? And is it normal/healthy for him to be the way that he is?

I don't want to complain but I am so new at this.. I don't know how a relationships is supposed to work (my parents are together but have a horrible "relationship").

Maybe I'm just being too naggy or expecting too much.. or i dont know..

.......sorry