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Originally Posted by Corine
I have talked to my Boyfriend about it.. and have shared my feelings with him.. but it always goes back to the same thing.. That is why i just shut down. because it doesn't make a difference.. no matter how much i talk.. no matter how much I share...
Then maybe its me??? Maybe like you sa y i'm afraid to be cared for... because when ever someone says they care i'm always on guard on what do they really want from me.. to me there is always a motive on the caring... and it always comes out.. don't know if you know what i mean...
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My wife is the same way, she has detached herself from me and the kids, she is guarded, and told me as much, she doesn't need or want affection atm. We have talked a log and I now understand a lot about PTSD and how it's affecting her. As much as it hurts to hear her say I love you, but I don't get the intimacy I want or need, I understand and let her deal. Maybe if your B/F totally understood what you need and don't need, he would be better with his comapssion. I have learned a lot in the last month and it hurts me at times, but I love her and what she needs, she gets. Communicating your true feelings, that sometimes you honestly don't know what's wrong, and that you may or may not need this or that...let him know. I hope things get better for you!
GL and God Bless!