Hi prettyjolie,
My husband & I are going through kind of the same thing. We are in our 50's. I look down the road and just see more of the same "too empty" life ahead of us, then we die. That's depressing. Part of the problem right now is that his job is not secure and he is not as motivated as I think he should be (my problem I guess) to make a change so we are secure financially. His only social activities are attending AA meetings. He's been doing that for over 20 years.

In the past I was busy with my own things and so our marriage worked for me. Right now, for the first time in 12 years of our marriage, I'm not busy with any other activities so I'm more focused on our relationship. It feels lonely right now. We've talked about this. My husband talks good, but no real actions follow up.

I'm beginning to realise that I need to just go live my life. Find new interests and activies for myself. Set myself new goals. And I will try and include him, but I can't force him to change. I can only change myself and see what happens in our marriage.

As others have already written, I would also encourage you, as I am trying to encourage myself, to go live your life. I plan on trying to continue to communicate my feelings and needs to my husband and hope things get better. But also make changes I need to make for myself, so I can be reasonably happy right now. Good luck to you.