(((daynnight)))

This situation sounds very challenging. I imagine that the first response of friends and family is to point out all the things they think you should be doing to correct this behavior.

When you posted you didn't mention if you have a professional to help you map out behavioral modification strategies. I have not experience in dealing with Asperger's, however I have a colleague who has a child with this diagnosis. They have been very active in seeking professional support and intervention as he develops. Although I do not know all of the things they do for this child, I do know that they have a structured procedures for dealing with various challenges he encounters.

It sounds to me like his doctor may not be "getting" what you are having to cope with. Is it possible to schedule a team meeting with the professionals treating him and re-assess/ collaborate on a comprehensive plan to address these issues. If all you are getting from them is 1) tell him to stop, or 2) ignore it, then maybe looking for other professionals might be in order.

(((daynnight))) I hope you can get the help you need.