Sounds like you are very overwhelmed right now. I am wondering if your child's temper tantrums , a husband that never understands your point, messy house, etc are more about you being depressed than about the other issues. Are you being treated for depression? Are you in therapy? Sounds like you really might benefit from either or both......and then perhaps the other issues won't seem quite as bad.........just my humble opinion ! Good luck - and glad you are here where you can talk, whine, or whatever you need to do!!!!!