I agree, the best thing to do with someone who has trouble listening, is to be really clear about how you feel. You'll be surprised how well this works. Maybe she will let you know that she didn't know how you felt. If she doesn't seem to listen even when you are very forward, then atleast it will be nice to know you aren't keeping your feelings bottled up inside. You can try to just stand your ground and make it clear how you would like your relationship to be. I symphathize tho! It can be lonely when if you feel as is someone close to you doesn't understand how you feel.