Thank u everyone..

[[but i'd encourage you to enjoy your life to the fullest and if all else fails at least you'll know where to find your hubby when you come home....on the couch watching sports.]]
haha.. that's true. I guess that's better than wondering if he's out at the strip club or something =D

Bonaire-- I'm sorry about your wife. That sounds very sad. Does she go to therapy? She's lucky to have you. You sound very supportive and understanding.

Pomegranate- omg I love pomegranates! haha.. yes, I will try to set goals for myself and do things for myself. I have nothing to do right now, so I have plenty of time to nitpick at our relationship .. it's so bad!

ok.. so I see something in common with everyone's replies.. I should do things on my own. I guess this is a good idea. It makes sense. The only thing that makes it difficult is thatI don't drive and I'm new here. He's military so we got dumped here and I know nobody. Its a small town and always cold (which I am NOT used to). I guess I'm kind of afraid and really, I don't know what to do by myself. I go out running on warm days but it's kinda difficult to meet people that way, especially since most people around here are like wayyyyy older than me and very different.
I do realize that I have to have a life of my own. I'm so used to being around family and I lived in the same town since I was 8 (I'm almost 20, by the way).
I know there's nothing like wrong with him.. but I don't know. I just wonder if it's "normal" for someone to be so obsessed with something. I was talking to a family member about this and we discussed how our parents always pushed us to do our best and to learn and better ourselves. Maybe his parents didn't do that? I am very close to my family and he isn't.
And break up?! Do you think that this is a reason for two people to break up? Yes, we are married, but do you think this is something serious?
I love him sooooooooooooo much, but it's tough to have a relationship with someone who doesn't put himself out there.
I'm wondering if he's depressed or something?
He seems happy, but then again, what do I know? I just don't know if I should push him or motivate him to do things, to exercise, to eat healthy.. to act like his freaking mother! lol I don't want to nag but I'm worried about him and his health. I believe that in order for one to be happy, we have to have goals and dreams and things that we are excited about.. like I am about going to college!
I just want us to have a healthy relationship and not be roommates, you know?
hah.. NOO, there is NO way he could forbid me to do something, hahaha
I just feel like I have no support.
ughhh growing up is so damn hard. I seriously miss the old days of homework and chores! hah, I never thought I would say that! lol
thanks again!