Ok, so you are both fed up, but he does nothing? Well, maybe he's saying one thing and doing another because he doesn't care about the relationship and making it work. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but that's what it sound like.
Obviously you have tried to talk to him about it. So if he's not willing to make an effort then why stay with him? Talk to him and tell him that if things don't change, then you can't be together.
Ask him what the problem is. Maybe there's something else going on that you dont know about.. and tell him to put himself in your situation.. like if you were to not call him to let him know that your plans had changed. If he says he doesn't care, then do it once. Don't call him or show up to something. Show him that it's not acceptable.

He really doesn't sound like he wants to be in a relationship, though. If you want to be with someone, you make an effort and not sit around and make them watch you play video games all day. That's just immature.

Good luck