Phoenix something in your thread jumped out and HIT me in the face..wham! Hypervigilence and working at Keeping other people safe. My daughter 'lost it' at me a while ago. She said she was sick of it all and how I kept trying to save her and her two brothers (grown up with their own kids) She said you act like theres a hole in front of that you are trying to save us from falling down all the time...She is right, but I didnt know that it was part of other people's PTSD as well.
Im always afraid fro them and try to save then from being hurt, from failing..and now its become unmaneageable, as I have 12 grandchildren and now Im trying to save them too....what you said "ITS TIRING' That has hit the nail on the ehead!
Gosh I hope I can find a way top stop this fear. I have isolated myself from them a bit and that seems to be helping, but I miss them a lot too.
I think one son may be hurt because of what I have done, so I dont feel like I can win.
Whew this was a long speil. Anyway just wanted to say thanks Phoenix, it sure helps to know Im not on my own with that symptom.
Amii
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Originally Posted by phoenix7
I think that is at the heart of hypervigilence, you have learned from an incident that things arnt safe and hypervigilence comes in to try to make sure it doesnt happen again and that you are safe - and often that you are keeping others/everyone safe.... thats tiring! 
I think part of letting it go is to make yourself feel as safe as possible and to maybe make a safe place for yourself - even if its the image of your T's office in your head - that you can go to |