those are good words to hear.

I think I'm sensitive since I have trouble getting past slights that other people seem to forget about easily. I'm one of those adults who complain about their childhood. But I don't think the slights are "in my mind." If someone criticizes your looks, you know it. And you can always tell if they're saying it in response to their own insecurity. You can tell when people are gossiping when it seems that people you barely know ask you questions or make the same comments as a lot of other people. If someone spreads rumors about you and criticizes that "you think you're better than other people because of xyz" And then it seems that everyone (even people you barely know) keeps making little comments like "I don't care about xyz" "you're only saying that because you've got xyz" "you could lose xyz any time..." Again, the problems are always with other women.