I've been awol due to bronchitis, I'm feeling better now . I wanted to ask whether anyone else out there suffers from "people pleasing" and whether T has interpreted that you please him or her. That's exactly what T told me, that I please him. When I asked him how do I do that, he wasn't very forth coming. Maybe he wants me to find my own answers, maybe he doesn't want to give it all away yet, who knows. He said that the patters we have IRL get played out in the therapeutic relationship so it was bound to happen. Wait, does this mean that he thinks I'm pleasing him just because I do it IRL or is there some hard evidence?

He did say that some of the things I tell him I do it to please him. The gave the specific example of a dream and two nightmares I recently shared. Does that mean that I'm not supposed to share my dreams with him because that's pleasing him? This whole thing has left me even more confused and maybe it even harder to talk and open up.

I've just started to share a little about SA and pleasing my father. Yes, I know what you're thinking, it's all connected. But when T told me that I was pleasing him, it freaked me out for the obvious connection.

Anyway, calling out any and all people pleasers out there. Do you please T? Has T told you you please him/her? Do you know why you do it?