That's what you have to communicate to him. See, I have a problem, I am always thinking, always something on my mind, always racing thoughts...I can't imagine not thinking about something, but she can literally not have a thought in her mind...I suppose a lot of ppl can do this, but I can't. I also always know whats wrong, when I am upset or a bit down, I know why, but you guys just...don't. I have learned to accept this as an answer, it's hard, but it is an answer, and eventually you (well the wife does 99% of the time) do know what's wrong and you'll be able to tell him. He needs to not just hear it but understand it. My wife has a hard time communicating as well, so I take the lead and will talk, and she will answer my questions best she can. I don't push tho, if she says she doesn't know...I'm done. These things he'll have to understand, and you'll have to work on communication, but that's part of your healing process. If you don't have a T, I would really suggest getting one, you can't heal yourself, that's what they are there for, and pray for a good one heh...there are a few I have run into over the 17 years with my Anxiety/Panic disorder that only ever tried to treat the symptoms, and not find out why I am the way I am...I know now and have learned a lot with my last 2 Ts, they've been great.

Again, GL and God Bless!!!