thanks, twilight. i guess i'm a bit ??? because something like physical abuse (for example) is always bad, whereas a depressed parents - it really depends on that parent, right?

but it feels better to know that some parents with depression can make it work. i dont have kids (or a husband!) and not sure i want kids, but my T used to say i would be a good mum, but things like this make me worry that i would be bad.